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Parent Smarter, Not Harder

Let’s say you’re at a playdate with your 2 year old, and she starts throwing a temper tantrum.

There are basically 2 ways to deal with it.

I’d say about 90% – 95% of parents choose what I call the “hard way.”

They tell their child to “Stop it this instant”… or give them a timeout in another room for 5 minutes… or make empty promises like “If you don’t start behaving then no ice cream for a month.”

I call this the “hard way” because — since there’s not much of a consequence — you’re basically guaranteeing that your child will feel quite comfortable having a tantrum whenever things don’t go his way.

(Why not? It gets him a ton of attention and nothing really bad really happens to him, right?)

And there’s nothing harder than being the parent of a child who has frequent tantrums.

Winner: Toddler!

Then there’s the “smart way.”

Same scenario. You’re at a playdate and tantrum starts. Here’s what to do:

  1. You immediately pick up your toddler, tell your host you’ll be back in a minute, go out to your car, and put her in the back seat.
  2. When she has calmed down enough to have a conversation, explain to her that you’re going back in to play with her friend, but if she misbehaves again, you’ll be taking her home.
  3. If she DOES act up again, you grab her and all your stuff and you go home.

Simple as that.

Kind of annoying and awkward to leave in the middle of a playdate, I know, but here’s why it’s the smart thing to do:

The NEXT time you’re in the same situation, and she starts misbehaving and you take her out to the car and threaten to take her home, she’ll know you mean business.

Pretty soon, you’ll be able to instantly stop tantrums with just a look. It’s awesome! Like a parenting super-power!

Anyway, like I said, only about 5 – 10% of people will actually do it the smart way, because they think it’s weird to leave in the middle of a playdate.

But after you do this once, you end up with a child who understands that unacceptable behavior has real consequences. And that makes your job as a parent WAY easier… in so many ways!

If you’re one of the 5 – 10% of people who would be willing to take a small step like this in order to make your life easier (and give your child the gift of good behavior), then you might be a good fit for “Kids: The Manual.”

It’s a complete parenting resource that gives you step-by-step, no-nonsense tactics for dealing with the most common behavior problems in kids aged 2 – 12.

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